I provide a safe place for people to heal from their past, live more fully in the present, and find greater success in their personal lives and relationships. I’ve helped individuals and couples grow stronger and happier for over thirty years as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Pasadena.
I completed my graduate degree at Fuller Graduate School of Psychology, and later taught there as an adjunct professor on Psychotherapy with Men. I also have a certificate in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy from LAISPS, the Los Angeles Institute and Society for Psychoanalytic Studies. This approach to therapy gives clients the deepest insight into their way of thinking and relating, and the keys to better relational health.
My services include individual psychotherapy, pre-marital and marriage counseling. Issues that are commonly addressed in counseling include depression, anxiety, anger, self-criticism, bitterness and problems with relationships. Marriage counseling includes practical instruction on better ways to communicate, work through conflicts, and build more trust and happiness. Sex therapy addresses issues from no-sex marriages to recovery from affairs and sexual addiction. Couples that have stopped touching each other can learn to rekindle their desires for each other. For engaged couples, premarital counseling helps build the foundation for a loving and lasting marriage.
I am a certified Gottman Seven Principles Leader. In your sessions for individual or couples therapy, I will teach you the practical principles for healthy marriages based upon the world renowned marriage research from the Gottman Institute. Their Relationship Checkup assessment offers a valuable picture of your relationship strengths and weaknesses, and how to improve upon both. I am also a certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitator. The Prepare assessment offers engaged couples deeper insight and tools to use together for a lifetime.
I am also an expert in understanding men. I have extensively researched about men’s unique needs, led men’s groups in psych and rehab hospitals and my practice, taught men’s workshops and conferences, and write often about men’s issues. I co-authored a book on sex for men, What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew about Sex, (with Ryan Howes and Steve Simpson), Baker Books, 2007. I have also done radio interviews on the book and how men can keep their sexual life alive and well with their wives.
Just published in 2018, my second book helps boys to become men. The Crossing Rite of Passage from Boyhood to Manhood. The Mentor's Guide gives fathers and men a complete training guide to raise their boys into men of character and faith. Suggested to be used by a small group of fathers with a small group of boys, the Mentor's Manual and Young Men's Manual offer a history of male rites of passage, six Lessons in Manhood, an adventure outing and initiation rituals for boys to become men. For more information and to order your copies, go to www.thecrossingriteofpassage.com.
Lastly, I have both personal and professional experience with multi-cultural and multi-racial couples, which includes my own marriage. While these couples can find unique richness in their differences, they can also encounter unique challenges and conflict. Over 22% of newlywed couples in California today are multi-racial, and that number keeps growing. Having lived in the Philippines, I have particular experience with Filipino culture, as well as Korean, Chinese and Japanese. I’ve taught workshops on the generational issues that Asian American families experience, the problems with shame, and ways to bridge the generational divide.
Hopefully the above gives you a picture of my professional life. Of more personal meaning to me, I have been happily married for over 30 years and am the proud father of two amazing young adult children.
Give me a call to start the changes you seek in your life. We can discuss questions about therapy and schedule your appointment.
I look forward to talk with you about your needs and goals.
Richard Rupp, M.Div., MFT 626-449-1419
marriage counselor and psychotherapist